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Parenting and Favoritism -
Apr 23, 2010 - 1:30:18 PM
Parenting
provides the greatest
opportunity
to impact the world by impacting children. God graciously placed
children in the hands of parents, totally helpless, empty brain
(knowledge),
prejudice free and emotionally entangled free. Thus the journey
begins for dad and mom to mold and equip each child to succeed before
God and in a cruel, unrestrained world of people.
Parents
are to unconditionally and
totally embrace each child equally, but not necessarily parent each
child in the same manner; the personality of the child determines the
style of parenting needed. Nevertheless, there is however; a common,
destructive, behavior that has almost become part and parcel of
parenting,
and it is favoritism. Before listing the negative results of
favoritism...
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Tips to improve your life and your relationships -
Apr 7, 2010 - 11:56:21 AM
Socrates once said, “An
unexamined
life is not worth living.” An unexamined life will never reach
its full potential because faults will not be seen and adjustments not
made. Throughout the scriptures persons are called to examine
their current state for improvement. When persons are challenged
to improve their quality of life it is often thought of as improvement
in the material possession owned, but true quality enchantment is
character
development. Practices of the following will, without doubt, enhance
your life.
From John 10:10:
1. Work
on
your most obvious fault. Luke 6:41; 2. Own
your
feelings. Proverbs 25:28; 3. Stop
blaming
others for your actions or reactions...
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The Blended Family -
Jan 21, 2010 - 12:38:50 PM
The
blended family will become, if not already, the standard model of the family in
the western world. What is a blended
family? The author describes the blended
family as one where the children associated with the marriage are related
biologically to only one parent. These
children can be adults or minors.
The main contributors to the formation
of blended families are second marriages, single parents marrying to one other
than the child’s biological parent and adoptions. A sad fact about blended families is the
success rate is not as good as the non-blended families. The good news however is, by adequately
addressing key issues one of two things will happen. The first possible outcome is no marriage
because by addressing these pertinent areas the only sensible course of action
is to STOP...
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Developing Healthy Relationships as a Stepparent - Part 2 -
Jan 5, 2010 - 1:55:54 PM
One of the most
challenging and complicated problems facing families today is the issue of
developing and maintaining healthy relationships with stepchildren.
Undoubtedly, many new spouses must feel, upon entering into a stepfamily
situation, that they are suddenly expected to act like Superman and "leap
tall buildings with a single bound."
Teach and model
repentance and forgiveness in your relationships
Joshua once said,
"As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord" (Joshua 24:15).
Are you proclaiming this to your children by your words and by your actions? To
what extent are you willing to go to make this a reality?
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Developing Healthy Relationships as a Stepparent - Part 1 -
Dec 30, 2009 - 9:32:52 AM
One of the most challenging
and complicated problems facing families today is the issue of developing
and maintaining healthy relationships with stepchildren. Undoubtedly,
many new spouses must feel, upon entering into a step family situation,
that they are suddenly expected to act like Superman and "leap
tall buildings with a single bound."
Though stepfamilies may
look like traditional nuclear families on the outside, the dynamics
on the inside are very different. Two completely unique family cultures,
two completely different sets of traditions, two completely different
ways of dealing with issues must now reach happy (or at least peaceful)
coexistence in one family.
Think about it: Roles
for everyone are jumbled and confused … responsibilities are
not clear cut as they usually are in a traditional family …
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The Power of Connection -
Dec 18, 2009 - 9:23:22 PM
Healthy connections are essential
for healthy relationships. This connection is called intimacy,
and contrary to how most think, it is not synonymous with sex although
sex is a component of intimacy. Here are a few words that comprise
a working definition of intimacy: closeness, togetherness, friendship,
understanding, affection and tenderness. Every person needs
connection (intimacy) because God created humans to connect. It
has been proven that a new born baby may die if there is no nurturing
contact with others. A person who is appropriately connected through
significant relationships is well on the way to leading a fulfilled
and rewarding life.
As human beings we long for
connection to the point that many tolerate and make effort to sustain
obviously unhealthy relationships just for some source of connection...
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The Quality of a Person’s Life is Determined by the Quality of His Relationships -
Dec 10, 2009 - 2:26:12 PM
When one thinks of a quality life, almost
invariably, money, possessions, and status are some of the things in
the forefront of ones thoughts. To some extent the things mentioned
do add a significant measure of quality to ones life, but beyond this
the non-tangibles essentials needed to bring ultimate qualities to ones
life can only come from healthy relationships.
Do relationships matter and are they
impacting? Unhealthy, dysfunctional relationships are stressful,
peace disrupters, sleep inhibitor, emotionally exhausting, physically
dangerous (abusive) and mentally disruptive, all of which contributes
to physical ailments. On the other hand, healthy, functional relationships
bring stability, joy, happiness, emotional and physical connection,
sense of wellbeing, enhance self-worth, and contentment just to
name a few...
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